In a fast paced life of today, everyday
changing ideas, ideologies and societal processes, amidst worries and anxieties
occupying most of one’s consciousness, seldom we feel the need to halt and
introspect. Never do we realize the need have a reality check on our ever
changing (sometimes, unconscious) behaviors and attitude towards our cherished relationships/loved
ones. In this frenzy for material ‘comforts’, we have lost out on true,
invaluably precious jewels, i.e. Relationships. If there is something that sobs
silently and suffers the most in the midst of worldly progress, it’s the human
relationship and bonding!
I have suffered a relationship
breakdown, and lost my love owing to my carelessness and callousness. This realization
dawned on me only too late when situation had become irreparable. Believe me, I've not been able to overcome the separation with my beloved, an epitome of love
and life, a perfect being for me and otherwise! Not a day passes when he is not
remembered, and love has only increased for him despite all that’s happened.
There is no closure, nor will there be, to this relationship that is now between
two souls.
We tend to ignore the needs and
rights of our close ones, which only we can fulfill in different capacities, as
companions, just as we look up to them for fulfilling our social, emotional and
intellectual needs. While we carry
everyone else’s cross on our shoulders, we keep drifting away from the legitimate
demands and aspirations of our loved ones. Our discourses will entail the issues
of world, corruption, human rights violations, price hike, global trends of
development, violence and what not, but never do we spare (adequate) time for
ourselves with our loved ones. And now I know what is feels to be lonely even
when surrounded by people, and being loveless, when our well wishers and family
are still there to love and support us. For no one can substitute for that very
special person who made me feel good and confident about myself, loved and
special.
These days, it disturbs me to the
core when I hear young (married) couples, mention about ‘Divorce’ ‘Separation’,
and ‘Break-up’, so casually and spontaneously, as if these are mere empty
words. These words have impacted me to such insurmountable extent that a chill
runs down my spine, when I hear them. These are satanic words, indeed, not to be uttered for ‘fun- sake’, please!
I seldom hear about or observe
keenness among couples to work upon the relationships, and God knows how many
times they pronounce ‘divorce’ to each other, in fraction of moments, agitated,
in fury. But often, things are easier said than done, but we just take
everything for granted. I’m sure issues can be resolved with mutual dialogue
and loving/respectable communication, which we never instantly will opt for. Sadly,
couples want easy solutions to their (marital or prospective marriage) issues,
and I have lived through this phase.
Change is the only phenomenon
that is constant, and every individual transforms with each passing day,
sometime consciously and sometimes unknowingly, with a variety of external and internal
factors. Everyone needs to accept this truth and work towards retaining and
revitalizing the relationship, togetherness, instead of uttering separation and
break up. No one is perfect, and can never be, and when two unique individuals
come to share their lives with one another, despite differences, then why even
think of giving up at any stage, atleast not in cases where Love rests on both
parts.
Yes, Love calls for patience and
endurance, hope and faith in the partner/companion, and the relationship itself.
Self exploration is an unending voyage, and nurturing Loving everyone,
regardless of difficulties and differences, is my sole mission for existence. I
just feel that this alone could be a perfect way of keeping my love and
relationship alive. My only prayer day and night is for my Love to be happy
again, healed at heart, wherever he be. I also hope we gain wisdom and
sensitivity towards preserving our relationships, and not sacrificing them and
losing them for ill-founded considerations and apprehension. I have failed, resultantly I'm alone, but don't want you to be in this situation. So, beware and just Love!
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